In this day and age, romantic relationships are the most fragile when it comes to relationships. This is simply because people come in with different expectations, trauma’s , unsettled beautiful memories and fears. But today, i want to share with you a few things you need to know before you get into a romantic relationship.
Are you ready to nurture the relationship? This can also be referred to as commitment, where by you are ready to start from scratch and build a romantic relationship you want for yourselves. This can be one-sided or two way.
The one sided usually comes in when one of you is exactly the ideal man or woman you’ve always wanted to be with. He or she might be responsible, loving, good at communicating and open minded. So if you lack those traits, yet your partner possesses them , be open and ask for his or her support so that you can also develop them. This takes time.
In a two sided one, both of you usually have issues either from your previous relationships or your personalities. Here the first question you have to ask yourself is; should i stay or leave? If you choose to stay, that’s commitment. This means you are ready to support each other in working on your weaknesses because there’s a spark you have for each other despite of the existing differences. Don’t give yourselves timelines.
Intimacy fears. When getting into a new relationship, you all come in with different fears and the most common ones are always sexual. You are always not sure whether your sex will satisfy your new partner and sometimes you are even always afraid to ask for what takes you to your pick due to the fear of being called immoral or a bitch.
Here is the thing, romantic relationships are like our day to day jobs we do. You need to put in the work to get results. Don’t ever seat their and think that your man will guess all your wants and desires, you need to communicate. Learn to do things together. Things like house chores whenever you both have time, eat together and most importantly listen to each other with out being judgemental. Your partner should always be your first counsellor.
To be continued…
